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Hey superstars,
It’s no secret I live a charmed life. Is it perfect? Absolutely not. Do I crash out weekly on Tuesdays around 3:30 pm? Yes. But I’m starting to look around and notice that things are actually different — and mostly that’s because I got fed up.
In December, I finished The Artist’s Way and made a decision: 27 was going to be the best year of my life. January was about starting fresh — relaunching the podcast, new business initiatives, new energy.
February was about being shown every single gap. Every place I’d been coasting, every area where I’d been waiting for something outside of me to change first.
Through my office hours, coaching, and 1:1 consults, I noticed how blatantly many of us are using the phrase “if only…” If only I had the right camera, I’d start; If only I had more money, I’d feel okay; If only I had a partner….etc. It’s easy to recognize the assumptions that hold others back, but to do so for ourselves? Excruciating.
For a long time, I’d also been outsourcing my energy — to circumstances, to timing, to the idea that the right version of me would just show up one day fully formed and ready. I kept telling myself I needed more time, more resources, more certainty. February made it clear that I’d been holding more power than I realized, and I’d just been leaving it on the table. Ew. Stops now.
⭐️ LEXICON: February 2026 ⭐️
A roundup of the month’s loves and learnings (get it, lexicon, aLEXIs?)
I got fed up and started moving before I was ready.
I kicked off the month with the first Alignment Edit IRL, and almost cried in the middle of the workshop because I felt the weight of cultivating connection between women who are often alienated for being “too much.” When the only feedback was that it should be longer, I beamed and felt like I could see a future vision for the work beyond the spreadsheets and Canva files that make up my day-to-day. It was a time of mental expansion. I wanted to crawl out of my old identity and mesh with this confident version of myself that helps women see their power. Makes me mushy!
It started with my space: I forced myself to finally upgrade the grad school furniture in my apartment and bit the bullet on a new rug, coffee table, bed and couch (!), resulting in a very pleasing new feeling. It’s really starting to look like the home of a fun fab NYC 20-something, and to feel like my truest center in this world. It’s really my little safe haven <3 AND WE HAVE A LOT OF WORK TO DO. Need new dishes, bedding, art, accessories, backsplash, oh MY! Stay tuned. And send recs.
Next, I forced myself to show up strong in my relationships. I went to so many girls’ dinners and coffee dates with women I genuinely admire and let myself be in the room instead of my default just grateful to be invited (habits of a lonely pre-teen at boarding school die hard). I forced myself to be the woman I’d been waiting to just magically become — and when old flings surfaced and work drama tried to pull me back into old patterns, I stood ON BUSINESS. I refused to freak out, didn’t shame myself for having emotions, and believed in myself anyway. Constraints came up. I kept going, but without the frantic energy that’s been in the background my whole life.
I also had to reckon with something I’d been outsourcing for too long — my own authority in my work. I’ve spent years hiding behind being “so young” and “not knowing enough yet.” February made it clear: I’m an authority in my space. It’s time to act like it.
There’s still a lot to learn about being me, being in business, and making things work. It’s hard, honestly. But something shifted in February that I don’t think is going back.
who what when where why how
where I ate: had my first ramen ever and it was a 10/10. Sukh Thai in Fort Greene is my new takeout go-to (12.5/10, I don’t make the rules). Sartiano’s saw me a few times for a pre-date cocktail and girls dinner. Crosby Bar for drinks AND tea — reliable every time. Entre Nous, where I’m pretty sure the waiter and I had a vibe (unless he does that with everybody? Report back.) Bagel World on my hungover days ( 2 this month), always get the hungry man.
what I worked on: brand deals with NatureMade and Adobe x Girl Scouts (c’mon…how cute???) and getting the podcast kinks worked out with my team — promotion, guests, all of it.
Finished my first personal branding group coaching cohort, and opening another one this month. Onboarded some new 1:1 clients that I’m obsessed with. The business is becoming real in a way that requires me to show up differently — with way more systems that I’m enjoying building. [if you wanna work w me, reply to this or view my offers here]
what I wore: fleece tights and compression socks daily because it was four degrees outside and I refuse to suffer unnecessarily. Animal print. Navy and black, a lot. Blue French nails. Slick backs. My new Jimmy Fairly glasses. Levi’s 501 90s Love jeans that I got on sale.
material girl moment: feb holy grails included Summer Fridays lip pencils & stains; and the Rhode Barrier Butter that kept my skin moisturized and breakout-free this cycle. miss bieber is really doing somethingggggg over there!
on rotation: Don Toliver, obsessively. Been certified my whole life, come check my registration.
wellness: went to acupuncture at WTHN weekly!!! Got back on my workout grind towards the end of the month with Form. Had an underlying sickness the whole month (NYC winter, as mentioned), and drank a lot of bone broth to survive. Decided to cut out gluten, which I remembered halfway through a Belgian waffle at Clark’s this past Sunday.
what I read: Psychocybernetics (recommended by our last TWO TSFT guests) and Aesthetic Intelligence — both extremely relevant to where my head is right now. Taste is more important than ever & also we have control over our thoughts. PLEASE!
what I was learning: Sigh, so like… AI is a major MAJOR conversation I’m having with all my smart friends IRL and I’m done sleeping on it publicly to avoid pushback. Whether you agree with it or not, it’s here, and if women don’t get on this wave, we will miss out on a lot of wealth, opportunity, and a lot of policy formation.
I posted one video about setting up Claude and apparently I’m an AI influencer now, which was not the plan but I’m not arguing with it (or the 5,000 followers that I gained). More seriously though: I had dinner with a friend who survived layoffs at a very profitable, very popular company, and we sat there and accepted the truth — the era of solopreneurship fueled by AI is here and it’s not going anywhere.
I decided to stop being curious about it from a distance and actually get familiar. I’ve been using Claude and it’s been kind of amazing. More on this soon because I have thoughts. For now, some resources I’ve been loving here.
this month on too smart for this:
March’s theme is POWER.
This week I kicked things off with the places you’re giving your power away without realizing it. It’s one of those episodes that will make you want to immediately audit your entire life. Go listen!!!
Monday, we have the incredibly brilliant Pauline Brown — author, professor, former Chairwoman of LVMH North America — and the conversation is everything I hoped it would be and more.
And after that... a very special haircare CEO is joining us. Can you guess who? 👀
before you go —
The Alignment Edit is BACK on March 22nd, and tickets are live. Book before Sunday and it’s $60 — that’s 20% off. It’s a live in-person experience for the woman who’s done feeling like she’s doing everything and still somehow off. You’ll leave changed!
Love ya.
xx
Alexis
